How Trusting Are You?
Without trust in a relationship, survival in human society is not easy. We would not be willing to participate in even mundane activities such as buying food at the grocery store, forming a carpool with neighbors, or visiting a doctor.
We have to believe that the food we buy at the grocery store is safe, that our neighbors will pick us up on their turn on the day to drive, and that our physician will treat us in a way that will improve our health, not harm it.
If we are not ready to trust, then we would have to get confined in a house where we grow vegetables.
Then our existence would be both spartan and harsh, and our time on this earth would be much lesser than we can expect under our present way of life.
Cynthia Johnson-George and Walter Swap, the authors of the Specific Interpersonal Trust Scale, raised some important findings of this early research that suggested that many benefits accompanied the capacity to trust others.
Trust in a relationship (Women vs. Men)
One of the most surprising things Johnson-George and Swap found while preparing their test was that men and women think differently about trust —so different that it was necessary to separate tests for both sexes.
Women tend to think of trust in more specific ways than men do. (Don’t believe it, then Click Here to get a Trust in a relationship Test for women)
Second, women are consistently more trusting than men and more willing to give people a second opportunity after they have shown they cannot be trusted. The authors did find, that both men and women differentiate on reliableness from emotional trust, and this seems to make sense.
We have all had friends to whom we can tell anything, but who can not be counted on to remember an important date.
This test of trust in a relationship for men consists 21 questions where you are requested to marks your response on the following degrees of agreeableness :
1 = Very strongly disagree
2 = Disagree
3 = Moderately disagree
4 = Slightly disagree
5 = Neither agree nor disagree
6 = Slightly agree
7 = Moderately agree
8 = Agree
9 = Strongly agree
Subscale used in this test
- OT (Overall Trust)
- ET (Emotional Trust)
- Re (Reliableness)
Now let’s get going….