How Trusting Are You?



Without trust in a relationship, survival in human society is not easy. We would not be willing to participate in even mundane activities such as buying food at the grocery store, forming a carpool with neighbors, or visiting a doctor.

We have to believe that the food we buy at the grocery store is safe, that our neighbors will pick us up on their turn on the day to drive, and that our physician will treat us in a way that will improve our health, not harm it.

If we are not ready to trust, then we would have to get confined in a house where we grow vegetables.

Then our existence would be both spartan and harsh, and our time on this earth would be much lesser than we can expect under our present way of life.

Cynthia Johnson-George and Walter Swap, the authors of the Specific Interpersonal Trust Scale, raised some important findings of this early research that suggested that many benefits accompanied the capacity to trust others.

Trust in a relationship (Women vs. Men)


One of the most surprising things Johnson-George and Swap found while preparing their test was that men and women think differently about trust —so different that it was necessary to separate tests for both sexes.

Women tend to think of trust in more specific ways than men do. (Don’t believe it, then Click Here to get a Trust in a relationship Test for women)

Second, women are consistently more trusting than men and more willing to give people a second opportunity after they have shown they cannot be trusted. The authors did find, that both men and women differentiate on reliableness from emotional trust, and this seems to make sense.

We have all had friends to whom we can tell anything, but who can not be counted on to remember an important date.

About Test


This test of trust in a relationship for men consists 21 questions where you are requested to marks your response on the following degrees of agreeableness  :

1 = Very strongly disagree
2 = Disagree
3 = Moderately disagree
4 = Slightly disagree
5 = Neither agree nor disagree
6 = Slightly agree
7 = Moderately agree
8 = Agree
9 = Strongly agree

Subscale used in this test
  • OT (Overall Trust)
  • ET (Emotional Trust)
  • Re (Reliableness)

Now let’s get going….



1.If X gave me a compliment I would question if X really meant what was said.
2.If we decided to meet somewhere for lunch, I would be certain X would be there.
3.I would go hiking with X in the unfamiliar territory if X assured me that he/she knew the area.
4.I wouldn’t want to buy a piece of furniture from X because I wouldn’t believe his/her estimate of its worth.
5.I would expect X to play fair.
6.I could rely on X to mail an important letter for me if I couldn’t get to the post office.
7.I would be able to confide in X and know that he/she would want to listen.
8.I could expect X to tell the truth.
9.If I had to catch an airplane, I could not be sure X would get me to the airport in time.
10.If X unexpectedly laughed at something I did or said, I would wonder if he/she was being critical and unkind.
11.I could talk freely to X and know that X would want to listen.
12.X would never intentionally misrepresent my point of view to others.
13.If X knew what kinds of things hurt my feelings, I would never worry that he/she would use them against me.
14.I would be able to confide in X and know that he/she would want to listen.
15.If X didn’t think I had handled a certain situation very well, he/she would not criticize me in front of other people.
16.If I told X what things I worry about, he/she would not think my concerns were silly.
17.If my alarm clock was broken and I asked X to call me at a certain time, I could count on receiving the call.
18.If X couldn’t get together with me as we planned, I would believe his/her excuse that something important had come up.
19.If X promised to do me a favor, he/she would follow through.
20.If X were going to give me a ride somewhere and didn’t arrive on time, I would guess there was a good reason for the delay.
21.If we decided to meet somewhere for lunch, I would be certain he/she would be there.

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